Stages of your
You've done a
lot of things in your life. But let's
face it – navigating through midlife
isn’t one of them. That’s an experience
you only do once.
If you want to
pursue the journey from success to
significance, learning from the
experiences of others—those who have
“been there and done that”—is a good
place to start.
In over a decade
of guiding others on this journey, we
have identified four distinct stages of
the halftime journey: Discovering
Vision, Guided Reflection, Diverse
Exposure, and Enduring Impact. Every
Halftimer moves forward at their own
pace and discovers their own unique
calling, but they almost all go through
these same four stages. Our hope is that
having this simple model in mind frees
you to view this as a journey.
Through each of these four stages there
are three primary issues to which
Halftimers need to find answers: Core
(your passions and strengths), Capacity
(margin in your time, talent and
treasure to live our your mission) and
Context (the organization, setting and
role that's your second-half sweet spot
to carry out your mission).
successful people find midlife confusing
and unsettling. They don’t realize they
are about to enter a new stage of life.
They just know that things seem
different—and something they can’t even
define is missing.
The trigger may be
a significant life event—a child leaving
for college, the death of a parent, the
pain of divorce, a liquidity event, a
significant career success or failure in
your career. Other individuals simply
enter a calm season that provides the
opportunity to truly see where life
has—and has not—taken them. Regardless
of the door through which you enter, in
this first stage you will likely find
yourself asking such questions as these:
I have accomplished what I set out
to do, but is there more to life?
I alone in feeling this way?
(stuff, money, advancement) is enough?
In what ways is my success a platform
for something even more meaningful?
realize that even tremendous financial
success does not bring true
satisfaction, your thoughts shift to
even deeper matters. You think less
about what you have done and more about
who you are. You may wonder if God has
created you for a specific purpose on
this earth. At this point, you may ask a
different set of questions:
am I really passionate about?
are my core values and greatest
How can I find eternal
How might my spouse and
I share this new experience?
come alongside me to provide wisdom and
insights during this journey?
I begin to find the serving
opportunities that fit me?
renewed vision of who you are and your
purpose in life, you will be ready for a
period of exploration. You’ll analyze
different ways in which you might invest
your second half and further develop
your new world view. In this phase, you
will likely ask such questions as these:
How can I open up enough margin in
my life to pursue my calling?
I prepare myself and my family for this
What legacy do I desire
to leave through my children and
What specific arenas
of service might fit my skills and
How do I begin to find the
serving opportunities that fit me?
The last leg
of your mid-life journey is the process
of engaging fully in what you are called
to do and be in your second half. It's
about finding a new equilibrium in
life—with a new and active commitment to
serving. Common questions during this
final stage include:
How do I decide
between various serving opportunities?
How can I make my new vision fit with my
Where can I make
my highest and best contribution?
will I measure my effectiveness?
growing closer to God and to those I
love as I embark on this new journey?